the littlest milestones

by Gigi Ross on March 19, 2012

I don’t feel the sting of my kids growing away from me on the big moments: the first day of kindergarten or the first time they each took their first steps. I didn’t shed tears; rather, I looked excitedly ahead to the next big milestone.

I guess I’m a little different, in that I feel the jab of separation during the littlest milestones: the ones that ambush me when I least expect it and tell me that my child just did something that makes him less mine and more himself.

littlest milestones

When Boy Wonder poured his own milk.

When he wiped his own butt (boy, was that ever a day for rejoicing!).

When he went on his first sleepover.

When Little CEO logged onto the computer alone for the first time.

When Boy Wonder experienced being rejected by a friend.

When Little CEO began opening books and reading them alone.

When I moved to grab Little CEO by the index finger and found she was tall enough and big enough to put her entire hand in my own.

When I became the victim, and not the doler-out, of sarcasm.

When Boy Wonder became able to ride every single ride at any amusement park.

When he got a stomach bug and, instead of puking all over his room, he calmly went into the bathroom and puked in the toilet.

When Little CEO sleeps longer than I do.

When Boy Wonder became much too large to pick up and carry around.

When Little CEO started to hide stuff from me (okay, so it was mostly rocks, trash, and candy wrappers, thrown in the corner of her closet. She’d rather put them there than throw them away).

When both children began to prefer playing with each other, using their own inside jokes and lingo, than playing with me.

When both children were able to play a board game for ages 8 and up.

When Boy Wonder had enough self-awareness to recognize that he wasn’t good at something.

When I stopped having to pick up Little CEO to wash her hands at a sink in a public restroom.

When both kids began ordering food for themselves at restaurants.

When Boy Wonder stood in front of a panel of TaeKwonDo judges for the first time and performed his forms.

When Little CEO fought stage fright and danced in her school program.

When I cannot help Boy Wonder with his homework because I don’t understand it.

When Little CEO asks me questions to which I do not have an answer.

When Boy Wonder walks a block ahead of Little CEO and I on the way to school.

These are my daily taps on the shoulder that remind me these two little beings are not only growing up, they are growing away. Every single minute of every day, they grow away.



Dr. G March 19, 2012 at 3:47 am

I am exactly the same. Big days? Bring em on! I love to see my boys succeed at the big steps. I tear up at these unexpected but amazing developments. Especially the times when they newly understand something of the grown up world.

Natalie March 19, 2012 at 5:00 am

Those little moments always seem to sneak up on me when I’m least expecting them too. I sat on the couch the other day next to my oldest & realized he was studying for his Permit. How is this kid already 15? Wasn’t he starting kindergarten the other day?

Jackie March 19, 2012 at 6:00 am

Everyday there is something new and different with kids isn’t there?

Kristin March 19, 2012 at 7:20 am

!st born had 1st appointment to prep for braces next week? Wasn’t it just yesterday that his first tooth came in?

Kristin @ What She Said March 19, 2012 at 8:54 am

Having experienced our fair share of stomach bugs this winter alone, I look forward to the day when Lil’ Bit is grown up enough to calmly walk to the bathroom and puke into the toilet. Although for me, that day didn’t come until the age of 35 (i.e. last year).

Lynnette March 19, 2012 at 9:11 am

Ok, that made me sad. :(

Susan in the Boonies March 19, 2012 at 9:54 am

They do, indeed.
I know you don’t have time to read other people’s posts, but that is the very thing I wrote about today.
We reached quite a milestone with my son’s 18th birthday, and chose to celebrate his “walking away” in a significant way.
So, I told that story today.

Deirdre March 19, 2012 at 10:06 am

Heart melting is what they do.

Tanya March 19, 2012 at 10:53 am

Wow, you made me cry just reading those. Unlike you, I do cry at these littlest milestones. I have yet to make it through singing “Happy Birthday” to any of my 3 children on their respective birthdays, the emotion and pride puts a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes about half way through.

Our latest and most recent milestones are courtesy of Daredevil (aka our 2 year old)….the first time he nodded his head “yes” (oh, how i longed for that day!) and he actually wanted to sit on the potty. I’ll be jumping for joy when we get to that next milestone when he actually goes! Great idea for a post and thanks for helping us remember those little milestones with the greatest impact.

Missy | Literal Mom March 19, 2012 at 11:29 am

Yes, exactly. A couple of the moments you said here are things that have been hitting me in the head with a 2×4 recently.

And your kids are BEE-YOO-TEE-FULL. OMG. Bar the door when they get old enough to date! :)

Shell March 19, 2012 at 12:18 pm

Some of the expressions my youngest is using lately make me see how much he’s growing up. Even just saying “This is awesome!” he seems like a kid instead of a baby.

christine March 19, 2012 at 1:06 pm

Oh yes. It is the little moments that make me realize how big and independent they are getting.

mommylisa March 19, 2012 at 6:56 pm

whew. it flies by…

Goa trip March 20, 2012 at 12:13 am

These are they days like which we never forget in our life when a child grow because at that many parents think only this think now these are the golden days are going on for us as well as for child.

Sili March 20, 2012 at 7:18 am

Damn, this made me teary eyed! I was just staring at the frog princess this morning wondering when she stopped looking like a baby and started looking like a kid.

The little things sneak up on you, don’t they? There’s a book called Let Me Hold You Longer. In it the author talks about how we don’t recall the last time we do something with our kids b/c we don’t know that it will be. Yeah, it’s a tear jerker. Now I get to add this post to that list ;-). Thank you for sharing!


Julia March 20, 2012 at 1:04 pm

Yes! I have also found this to be true. The “big milestones” haven’t been as heart wrenching to me as just the every day happenings in which my little guy makes steps towards growing up into his own little person and no longer my baby.

Mary March 27, 2012 at 8:07 pm

I have to say that when I no longer had to be a part of the bathroom scene for my daughter, I felt like it was the biggest milestone ever. Potty training just took forever!

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