Radio Silence: Where Are You, Blogosphere?

by Gigi Ross on April 13, 2012

social media fatigue
A few days ago, I wrote a post about How To Have a Happy Marriage With Your Blog, which is all about helping along that love-hate dynamic that many of us have with our blogs.

The comments to the post fascinated me, because they seemed to validate something I’ve been feeling in the blogosphere, but that I couldn’t quite put my finger on.

For weeks now, I’ve sensed a general malaise with blogging and social media.

In my fairly-large Twitter circle, things have gotten very quiet. I don’t see the chatter and engagement that I used to.

I see fewer and fewer comments – not just on my own blog, but on other people’s as well.

I’d see random Facebook updates, or get emails from friends, or watch a tweet go by that would mention how that person is weary of blogging.

A few friends, Tracy of Sellabit Mum and Jackie of With Just A Bit of Magic, recently posted Facebook questions about this very topic, asking people where they are spending their time. Why has Twitter gotten so quiet? I’ve personally started spending more time on Facebook because it seems more lively.

The comments on Wednesday’s posts verified that there is something wrong, very wrong, in our little corner of blogging land.

My commenters spoke of being in deep valleys with their blogging. Not feeling like it was worth it. Considering walking away.

I’ll have to admit, I’ve been feeling this same sense of malaise myself.

It sort of feels like the blogosphere got infected with a nasty flu virus. Or that there’s a collective weight dangling around all of our necks, dragging us into dreary pits that leave us with little energy to climb out.

I’ve been blogging as part of this community for two years, and I haven’t ever witnessed anything like it.

It got me wondering: is it just my blogging circle?

And why are so many people feeling this way at the same time?

Is it because most of my peers and I are at a natural evolution point with our blogs?

Or is there something more – social media fatigue? An urge to turn away from digital and get on with our physical lives?

I don’t have the answer – only questions as to why there’s radio silence.

So I’ll ask you: have you noticed the radio silence? Are you feeling a lack of engagement and energy in the blogosphere? Are you at a place where your blog is bringing you down?

Is your Twitter stream as active as it used to be? Are you getting the same number of comments on your blog that you typically do?

What do you think it’s all about?

{ 156 comments }

Barbara Davis April 13, 2012 at 3:41 am

I think a lot of it has to do with spring time. It’s time to be outside! I have noticed Twitter is quieter when I stop by (which hasn’t been much lately).
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kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:27 am

The odd thing is that I’d noticed this dynamic way before spring came around. I started noticing it back in February, and it’s gotten even more pronounced. But yes, the nice weather definitely plays a factor!

Ali April 13, 2012 at 3:53 am

Really interesting that you wrote this. I’ve been feeling like that too. I thought I was the only one. This is the second week in a row that I’ve only posted once (and two weeks in a row they weren’t that substantial). I’ve hardly tweeted a thing. For me: I’m in a rut. There are a few major personal things going on that have taken the wind out of my sails. And throwing Easter in as well to take up some time. I want to check back later and see what everyone else says about this.

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:27 am

Lots of insight and comments coming…I had no idea the response this post would get!

becca April 13, 2012 at 3:55 am

for me I came to thr realization once again after being shown how short life is that I need to live more I had been passing up things in favor of blogging and commenting that I shouldn’t have and i missed some great moments so I’ve decided to spend more time in RL then in the digital so if that means less reading on other blogs lead to less comments on mine so be it. I write my blog for a way to release emotions and have fun not to make money like everyone else besides i suck at making money so it wouldn’t matter.
becca´s last blog post ..L is for Live

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:28 am

Agreed…I think a lot of people made an effort starting with the new year to unplug a little more and spend time in our real lives.

Megan @ My Stubborn Little Miss April 13, 2012 at 4:11 am

Interesting, I feel like my posts, etc. are shorter and I’m reading less on a computer (just on my phone) so I’m not commenting as much. I also think in my case, it’s springtime. I’m still posting, because I’m outside, having fun, taking photos… But not spending hours reading/writing indoors.
Megan @ My Stubborn Little Miss´s last blog post ..Reviewed.

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:29 am

We probably can’t underestimate the impact mobile phones are having on the blogosphere. Until the technology really gets to the point that it’s as robust as being on a PC, there will be some attrition in terms of comments and interaction!

tracy@sellabitmum April 13, 2012 at 4:22 am

I think it could very well be that our circle is moving in other directions – whether it’s social media work or freelance writing or really just deciding they need to back-off a bit. I’m kind of reevaluating also – as we all do I guess. It’s been a strange thing to witness though. xo
tracy@sellabitmum´s last blog post ..Proud

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:30 am

I agree that part of it is people getting jobs (awesome) and pursuing businesses (awesome). I’m so happy to see all of it! At the same time, I do miss a bit of “how it used to be.”

Theta Mom April 13, 2012 at 4:35 am

I do think many of us are in the same circle & as Tracy said, are moving in different directions. I think bloggers are taking paid writing gigs first leaving their blogs to come later if there’s time. I also believe as bloggers, we feel pressured to do it all in social media, & that’s just not possible. One year ago, we didn’t feel the *need* to be on sites like Google+ or Pinterest but now we do – added on top of Twitter, FB, LinkedIn & everything else we do.

It’s too much – and with the lack of return you see online, I think that’s when the shift begins.

I don’t have the answers, but I do miss the convo in my stream & elsewhere. Blogging has changed. And I’m not quite sure where we’re going to land.

Like you, I’m still in mid-flight.
Theta Mom´s last blog post ..Two Hands

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:31 am

Oh man, the added pressure of additional social media tools just makes it overwhelming. There are so many now, and the impact of that can’t be underestimated. We can all do only so much. It will be interesting to see where people decide to spend their time and effort.

Nicole @MTDLBlog April 19, 2012 at 7:16 am

I think it’s partly due to the stages some of us are in – work, business etc…and partly because we are trying to balance things a bit more. I’m working more, but I’m also trying to unplug a bit more too. It’s tough though – because I want to be present, but I want to work in social media and continue with my freelance writing because it’s been a great new venture that lends itself to being home with my kids and I want to record my thoughts and memories on my personal blog…. but it’s nearly impossible to do it all as much as I want :-) .
Nicole @MTDLBlog´s last blog post ..She’s My Hero {Wordful Wednesday}

Mandy April 26, 2012 at 8:00 am

Coming late to the conversation, but this exactly.

A year or so ago, the only social media I really thought about was twitter and fb. Now there’s Pinterest, Google+, Instagram, and who knows what will be next. It’s exhausting and time consuming to keep it all up. So I just don’t.

Add in paid gigs, real life jobs, kids and, well, time IS finite. Some things fall by the wayside. For me, it’s commenting. As awful as it is, I still read most of my favorite blogs, but usually on a rotation or when a title catches my eye. THEN, to make it worse, I don’t always comment. I just can’t do it all and something has to drop.

Besides, if I don’t’ go out and live my life a bit, I won’t be able to have anything to blog. :)

kludgymom April 26, 2012 at 12:03 pm

Yes to everything you said, Mandy!

I still read blogs – just in the way you describe – as things catch my eye or when I grab a free minute – but I don’t always comment. I will try to RT a post that really resonates with me. But I’ve stopped getting on Twitter altogether in the evenings or on the weekends. I shut down my Google Reader. I rarely post to Instagram anymore. As you said, one gets so busy with the recording and documenting of one’s life, and reading everyone else’s, it leaves little time left to actually live!

Jennifer April 13, 2012 at 4:36 am

I’m new to blogging, so I can’t speak to the change you are experiencing, but I can say that I’ve noticed a big difference in how I’m engaging with my children & husband since I started blogging/Twitter. It definitely gives me pause. Sustaining a blog and keeping friendships going on Twitter seems to take a lot of time & energy. I don’t know if this gets easier with time, but I can definitely see how it could get overwhelming and/or tiring.
Jennifer´s last blog post ..My Mother Crapped On My Homework & Set It On Fire

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:33 am

Yes, you will find, if you’re a fairly new blogger, that there’s a huge time suck involved with it all. The blogging piece is probably the smallest portion in terms of time. When you add on promoting in social media and networking, it’s a rabbit hole that most of us have found ourselves falling down in a very deep way. Every few months, we all go through points where we need to realign priorities!

All Fooked Up April 13, 2012 at 4:42 am

Personally, I haven’t noticed much on my blog but as to Twitter, i very frankly got bored with it. Beyond that, I decided to hunker down and write a book so then I got bored with writing.

With spring comes graduations and other school functions as well. Some may well be cyclical but I think the limited engagement on Twitter affected my attitude towards social media as a whole.

Also, I decided that I wasn’t going to “work” at blogging which meant interacting when i didn’t feel like it. I’m best in person and if i can’t do that, I rarely interact. I prefer a phone call.

I can’t speak for all but blogging and interacting are time consuming and as many of these young moms get more and more involved in school and extra-curricular activities, their time will be limited.

could be that..OR..I could be wrong. Wouldn’t be the first time.

Great post AGAIN girl…
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By Word of Mouth Musings April 13, 2012 at 10:31 am

see, sweet Lynn, this is why you and i spend hours on the phone ;)

… for sure Gigi, i believe that things they are a changing. Life is like seasons and they change for each of us. We have a different focus and value on what we do … it has to trickle down thro our blogs. But i believe that the true friendships, the real one’s (and there are many that are not) the real one’s will stay with us and our lives will be the richer for them. And we will have blogging to thank for that … and also, we will be the old ladies shaking our booty on conference dance floors ;)
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kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:14 am

Amen! I am happy that my blogging has reached a point where I have some friendships that will transcend social media!

Nicole @MTDLBlog April 19, 2012 at 7:18 am

I love this! And I believe and hope for this as well. I hope to remain connected to the friends I’ve made even as this blogging journey continues to evolve. :-)
Nicole @MTDLBlog´s last blog post ..She’s My Hero {Wordful Wednesday}

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:34 am

You bring up a great point. A lot of bloggers start out when their babies are little (read: still napping). when they stop napping, and kids are going to preschool and sports start up and they’re trying to volunteer…it can get difficult. In fact, there would’ve been no way I could blog when my kids were that age. I only really started heavily into it once both kids were in elementary all day. I don’t know how most of the women with younger kids manage!

Natalie April 14, 2012 at 9:04 am

Totally agree with that point Gig – that’s exactly what’s happening to me right now :(
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Laura @ Mommy Miracles April 13, 2012 at 4:55 am

I think it is simply the normal cycle of a blogging community that you are experiencing. I have blogged since I was sixteen and I have noticed more than once how my community has slowed down and moved on. Sometimes life gets in the way, other times people move the conversation to different platforms – I don’t know why it all tends to happen at the same time – maybe once one person feels the freedom to change, other people start feeling the same way. I just know that it is normal. There are always people who are blogging, but communities always evolve.
Laura @ Mommy Miracles´s last blog post ..Welcome to the World, Nameless!

Natalie @MamaTrack April 13, 2012 at 5:04 am

I thought it was just me. I’ve been focused on life (new baby and toddler) lately. So my reading and commenting and tweeting has dropped off. And of course that means the comments on my blog have dropped a bit. But most of my readers aren’t bloggers, so my hits are down only slightly.
Natalie @MamaTrack´s last blog post ..A Peep of Chicks

Tracy April 13, 2012 at 5:19 am

I am super glad you wrote this. I am a new blogger (started October 2011) and I thought this was something that happened with the changing of the seasons. I feel like people are not blogging, commenting, and engaging as much as they used to. I have even taken a few days off during the week which I never used to do. I really thought that it was because of the nicer weather we are experiencing because of Spring. I will def pass this along!
Tracy´s last blog post ..Buckle Up

Angie Kinghorn April 13, 2012 at 5:29 am

I wonder how much of it has to do with spring break? My kids were just on spring break last week, and a lot of other schools around here are out this week, and Lord knows, it’s hard to get anything done with your kids around the house or if you’re brave enough to take them on vacation.

But aside from that, I’ve noticed a dip in things, too. I thought it was because my engagement has dropped off as I’ve been trying to do some behind-the-scenes technical stuff that’s left less time for actual writing, but you’re right, twitter is less active, too.

Theta Mom hit the nail on the head, though. I spent nearly all of my time over the last couple of weeks doing things I’ve been told I “should” be doing, like Google+. It spreads you really thin to try to keep up with so much social networking as well as blogging. Perhaps we’re seeing group fallout?
Angie Kinghorn´s last blog post ..Mary’s son

Elizabeth Flora Ross April 13, 2012 at 6:28 am

Great post! Not only have I noticed it, I have been disheartened by it. I wrote this post recently for a fellow blogger:

http://www.erinmargolin.com/are-you-there-blogosphere-its-me-elizabeth

I haven’t figured out any of the answers yet, I’m sorry to say. But, I’m still out here, trying to connect. I haven’t totally given up yet…

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 6:44 am

I can’t believe I missed the post you wrote for Erin…thank you for sharing it!!! it’s somewhat reassuring to know I’m not alone in feeling this way.

Natalie April 13, 2012 at 6:29 am

I think it could just be the time of year. We’re all busy with wrapping up the school year or spending more time outside with the warm weather.

What I’ve noticed is that only a few of my twitter friends are more quiet lately. There are still some that are as chatty as ever, but others have seemed to have disappeared.

And while I’ve always liked Facebook, Twitter is still my favorite for the simple fact my mother in law isn’t there.
Natalie´s last blog post ..Accountability and a Higher Standard

Christine @ Love, Life, Surf April 13, 2012 at 6:35 am

I too have noticed a bit of a shift or at least greater acknowledgement of the need to step back. I’m relatively new to blogging and all the social media that comes along with it so for me, I’m trying to rein in the pull of social media so that it doesn’t overtake my life. That plus I’ve been super busy with work so don’t have as much time to dedicate to blogging/Twitter/FB.
Christine @ Love, Life, Surf´s last blog post ..5 Life Lessons I Learned From Surfing

Stephanie April 13, 2012 at 6:39 am

I do not have a well known blog with a large readership. So I feel a little silly commenting on this, but am going to anyway!

I am barely on Twitter anymore. Everything in my stream seems to be mostly promotion. I used to be able to hop on at random times any day and find a conversation to be had. Now it is rare. I have also stepped back a bit from being on much because I found that I was checking out of my RL a little too much in favour of my online life.

I actually like FB better now. I don’t have to be present all the time to have interaction and conversation. Twitter needs to be immediate, FB does not.

I have not noticed much difference with comments on my blog, but then I never got many to begin with. I do struggle to be a consistent blogger but I think that has more to do with my personality and my quirks of procrastination than blog burnout. I have noticed that some of my favourite blogs do not get as many comments as they used to.

I do not comment like I used to either, I cannot do it all. FB, Twitter, posting on my blog, reading and commenting on others. I have RL and children and husbands and friends that all need my time too. Something has to give and in the hierarchy of me it is going to be my online life that will get cut back.
Stephanie´s last blog post ..Mmmm…..Chicken Lasagna

Stephanie April 13, 2012 at 6:41 am

Okay, this is why you should ALWAYS proofread! I would like to clarify, I do not have multiple husbands. Just one :)
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Lea Ann April 13, 2012 at 8:18 am

A big YES! I just want to stop and get a real job. Or bake cookies.

I am finding less and less to respond to on twitter. Used to have no problem jumping on any time of the day and starting some hilarity with someone. Now? Where has everyone gone? Are they all baking cookies?
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Jennifer April 13, 2012 at 8:26 am

Oh yes! Have I ever noticed. Things slowed down around December, then picked up a little for part of January and February, but than have basically died since March. It is like all of the commenters just went bye-bye. I’m not sure what they problem is, but I hope that we will get an insurgence of new blood or something to pick things back up.
Jennifer´s last blog post ..You vs. You

Mrs. Jen B April 13, 2012 at 8:55 am

Well, all I can do is speak for me. At this time of year I long to spend more time doing other things – being outside, spring cleaning, purging junk, etc. Plus I’m trying to focus on healing. None of these things jibe with spending so much time online. Maybe this is where a lot of other people are at this season?

Or, like you hinted, maybe it’s just plain burnout. Either way I think we’ll find our way back – and make it work for us.
Mrs. Jen B´s last blog post ..Starting The GAPS Diet

Carolyn West April 13, 2012 at 9:18 am

I think my “circle” goes back and forth between being active on twitter and active on Facebook. I definitely haven’t had as many conversations on twitter as I used to – don’t know why. I know that with my own blog, I’ve been a little more “quiet” than normal, not because I’m not interested and burned out, but because I feel like I need to move forward and do something a little different and I can’t figure out what that is. I’m more in a holding pattern.
Carolyn West´s last blog post ..Best of the Best

julie gardner April 13, 2012 at 9:23 am

I’m going to be really honest (yikes) about my own personal malaise that stems from a couple of influences:

A. Blog: I work hard on each of my posts and am disappointed when return visits or show support of a blog where the content seems….ummmm….hastily (or poorly) thrown together. I know not everyone can spend hours creating a post. But why publish something three or four or seven times a week if you don’t have time? I understand that some people make a living on their blogs and must post often. But the content needs to engage me or I’m going to lose interest.

B. Twitter: It seems like some people are tweeting every post they read (perhaps to inspire a quid-pro-quo RT?). I try to carefully select and support just a few posts at a time so my recommendations are meaningful. I prefer quality over quantity and the inundation of impersonal/promotional tweets may be turning people off.

C. Facebook: I love it, but I’m confused at the moment – I don’t mind the box on the upper-right that tells everyone what I am liking or reading or commenting on; but I have seen my husband’s “newsfeed” and everything I do is right there front and center. I don’t have anything to hide, but I also don’t want to annoy my followers if their main feed is inundated with notifications on all my activity. I can’t seem to get an answer about what people are or aren’t seeing on their pages.

Does anyone know the rhyme or reason to what gets shared with others?

D. Sorry, once again, for blogging in your comments. I hope I didn’t offend anyone.

kludgymom April 13, 2012 at 10:39 am

I think all of your points are valid. Nobody really knows the secret behind what or how Facebook decides to display to whom, but remember that people can always hide your updates from their feed with a click of a button. I’ve done that with brands who I don’t really care about anymore.

I have cut back on my posting significantly. If I have 5 things to say this week, I’ll post 5x or, if I don’t have time to really pull those posts together, I spread them out over two weeks. There are some weeks where I have only posted twice because I have nothing else interesting to say that week. One of the challenges in being a blogger who does monetize to a certain extent is that you are, in the eyes of many PR firms, only as good as your last month’s traffic numbers, so that plays in to the dynamic of frequent posting that you find frustrating.

I love your comments; keep ‘em coming!

Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson April 14, 2012 at 8:30 am

Amen, Julie.

A. I hate reading crappy content. Huge turn-off. I’d rather people take pause and think: Is this good enough? Should I push publish?

B. Twitter: Blah! I try to tweet the very best posts, but sometimes I’m on my phone and it’s really tedious. That’s why people have turned to Triberr and other automated bots. Huge turnoff. I try to make them personal.

C: Facebook: I flat out asked people if they’d prefer if I turn off my blog on my main page and just post it to my Fan page. 50% said yes — they prefer not to be inundated with blogs and 50% say keep it there or else they will likely miss it. Confusing. But I know people have minimized me. Hidden me, so I no longer have the meaningful contact with people who I REALLY want to socialize with.

D: I love Julie C. Gardner.
Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson´s last blog post ..So You Think You’re Smart: A #LessonLearned by Jamie Golden

Kristin @ What She Said April 15, 2012 at 6:23 pm

Your Point A is a.) one of the many reasons why I love you and, b.) one of the many reasons why we are such kindred spirits. Poorly written content drives me crazy. Poorly written content that somehow inspires a crapload of traffic and comments drives me crazy and sucks the wind right out of my blogging sails. It’s sour grapes, plain and simple.
Kristin @ What She Said´s last blog post ..Guest Post: Just the Three of Us

Cheryl @ Mommypants April 13, 2012 at 9:24 am

I don’t know if it’s burnout per se.

Some of us don’t need the validation blogging and getting comments used to bring. Some of us have moved on to other things, spending our time and energy there. Some of us are tired of the drama in the blogging community.

Apparently, when I say somebody, I mean me. :)

That being said, I enjoy the interactions and appreciate everyone who still stops by and reads me. I still love the community I built.

But I only have enough time/energy/passion for so much, and write now, it’s my manuscript.

Also, I’m in the midst of potty training the boy child and housebreaking the boy puppy. That’s enough to kill anyone’s blogging mojo.
Cheryl @ Mommypants´s last blog post ..Everybody say pot-ty!

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:04 am

Drama? What drama? :)

I think there are a variety of things at play, and I believe they’re all converging at the same time. It’s just weird to witness in such a strong and palpable way.

Jennie B April 13, 2012 at 9:40 am

For me, it is a combination of things. It is too hard to sustain every day writing on a blog and keep it interesting and relevant. And when other bloggers write that often, I can’t keep up with them either. Once or twice a week seems to work better for me. And Twitter was just too much.

It is also a very busy time for a lot of people. I know I’ve been spending my internet time researching summer programs for the kids, dealing with some house projects, fundraising for the autism walk, and working on my son’s plan for his special needs school next year.
Jennie B´s last blog post ..Antibiotics and Behavior

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:06 am

Definitely a busy time of year, but as I said to another commenter, I’ve been noticing this since about February. Didn’t notice it last year. I truly hope that the upside to it all is that we are all achieving a better balance!

Jessica April 13, 2012 at 9:48 am

I know I am spending less time online and on Twitter. I felt like my life was taken over by social media and I lost track of everything else. Now when I get online I don’t do as much as I did before and I do notice that not many people are around on Twitter like they used to be.
Jessica´s last blog post ..Winner, Winner

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:07 am

Yep..me too. A goal for this year has been to be online less. It’s refreshing!

natalie April 14, 2012 at 9:06 am

Same thing happened to me too Jessica…
natalie´s last blog post ..What’s For Dinner Tonight? How About Chicken And Rice Bake!

Nicole @MTDLBlog April 19, 2012 at 7:22 am

I’ve noticed that too. I’m not on like I used to be either and when I stay off, it is refreshing and I am actually on top of other things in my life as well. But, I miss seeing familiar faces at times – like yours Jessica! :-)
Nicole @MTDLBlog´s last blog post ..She’s My Hero {Wordful Wednesday}

Practical Parenting April 13, 2012 at 10:22 am

Twitter is definitely quiet. I’m burnt and trying todo end more time actually enjoying my time instead of just blogging about it. It’s hard to find the balance.

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:09 am

We can all get sucked into that skewed perspective where we are so busy thinking about how to blog about our lives that we forget to actually live them!

Ginger April 13, 2012 at 10:24 am

I’ve been blogging for almost 4 years (wow, really?), and I’ve seen it happen time and again that communities shift and change and morph. I will agree that Twitter right now is a very different place–I was lamenting this yesterday, because I feel like I used to have connections and now all I get are ads. It’s become such a promotion heavy place that it’s sometimes WORK to find the CONNECTION beyond the compensation. (I’m actually devising some ways to try and deal with that. It’s too much for me).

I also think there’s something happening in the blogosphere in general. Questions about what kind of blogging you want to do. Payment versus not. Topics and writing styles and what do YOU get from it. And of course, conversations about community. And when those are starting to happen, and those questions are being asked, the whole community seems to teeter until the next shift actually happens. I don’t know what the shift will be, but I feel like it’s coming.

I know for me personally, I’m having to pull back for my mental health. I used to blog 4-5 days a week on one blog, & 2-3 times a week on another. Now I’m averaging 2-3 & 1 respectively. I’m not commenting as much, I’m not engaging as much–because I was at a breaking point and this was the only thing that can give. I LOVE community, I love conversation, but I can’t play the professional blogging game (especially since I’m not making any money!), so I had to change up how I approach it.
Ginger´s last blog post ..The Next Generation

Ginger April 13, 2012 at 10:24 am

Wow, I didn’t mean for that to turn into an epic…
Ginger´s last blog post ..The Next Generation

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:12 am

Your comment is my favorite thus far, because I think you touch on a lot of the elements that are at play: mental health, too much promotion on twitter, natural ebbs and flows with people as they evolve their blogging, both as an individual and as part of a community.

What are you doing to improve your twitter stream?

Julia April 13, 2012 at 10:30 am

I am completely new to the blogging world and still thrilled with it. I spend hours composing my thoughts, trying to post meaningful things, commenting on other’s blogs, and following Twitter. I have not even ventured into the world of a Facebook page for my blog yet. Total newbie.
The blogs I have found seem to be full of content and inspiration. I am just at the beginning of sharing my story and was thrilled at the first big commenting response I received on my blog this week.
So maybe blogging is about expanding circles? Maybe, as you suggested in your original post, the quiet is about that newness wearing off? I can easily see how this intensity is going to be hard to maintain. And if I ever manage to become as successful of a blogger as you and some of the others here, and branch out into other circles of freelance writing, then I see how there will just not be enough time to keep up with everything.
So that brings up some interesting questions; is blogging only something sustainable for a couple of years? Or is there a way to keep it going for the long haul?
Thank you for such a thought provoking post.
Julia´s last blog post ..Inspired

Making It Work Mom April 13, 2012 at 11:38 am

I pretty much gave up on Twitter. Because I work all day most of the time I felt like I was “out of the loop”

I have noticed a little down turn in commenting, etc.

And I do agree with Julie Gardner that when you spend so long on a post and then don’t get the reaction you want it is disappointing and a little discouraging. I think the encouraging news is that there is still a core of us out there who are active and committed and it is just a matter of finding each other.

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:15 am

I cannot imagine working outside the home full time and trying to keep up with social media. So much of it is spontaneous and immediate.

MommaKiss April 24, 2012 at 10:35 am

and this is why my posts have been bullshit the past 6ish months. I mean, I’m blogging as a profession – and like to vent / write / be funny…so I don’t even have a calendar.

been a great read here Gigi (as always).

Patty@homemakersdaily.com April 13, 2012 at 11:40 am

That multiple husbands comment made me laugh!

Patty@homemakersdaily April 13, 2012 at 11:49 am

At first I didn’t think I had noticed but the more I think about it, I think I have.

I started my blog almost a year ago. There was a lot more activity on twitter and Facebook. Now when I go on to comment, I often have a hard time finding anything to comment on. It definitely wasn’t that way when I started.

I post daily and will continue to do so. However, I am gearing up to try to start generating some income. If I can’t, I’m not sure I’ll keep doing this. I love it but it’s too much time for no financial return.

Would love to know what effect you think this will have on the future of blogging.
Patty@homemakersdaily´s last blog post ..How Does She Do It?

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:18 am

Well, I think blogging continues to evolve because of technology innovations. More people are mobile. More people are curating instead of creating content. There are more social networks to worry about.

I think heather from Theta Mom said it well when she said we will all have to pick and choose what works for us…and your community will then center around those media.

Deirdre April 13, 2012 at 11:51 am

G-
I’m relatively new to the blog world and have had nothing but a positive experience…but then again it may just be the honeymoon phase…

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:19 am

It’s awesome you’ve had a positive experience thus far! And what I’m observing may not be a bad thing…just different.

Robin | Farewell Stranger April 13, 2012 at 11:57 am

I actually hadn’t noticed, but I thought it was just me. For a variety of reasons I was posting less, so it seemed natural for things to be quieter on my blog. But lately I’ve been posting more than I was and it’s picked up again. (Though I don’t have the time to promote and engage as much as some people, so overall my comments are lower, which I expect.)

As for Twitter, I’m not seeing my same “friends” on there as much. Several times in the last few weeks I’ve gone on looking for conversation and it seems to be all about brands and Twitter parties.
Robin | Farewell Stranger´s last blog post ..Helping yourself feel better

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:22 am

I think what’s happening on your blog is a microcosm of what’s happening generally. I think as we discover new ways of connecting digitally, there are these expansion phases(everyone join google plus!) followed by retraction phases (I can’t possibly keep up with google plus!), too.

Christine @ Quasi Agitato April 13, 2012 at 12:08 pm

I definitely feel that, for me, FB is where the connections really happen.

My blog is super small so I’m not noticing the drop off you are. But I have taken a big step back, got busy with other things, and very seriously considered letting it go. Funny thing is, as soon as I re-evaluated my commitment, the desire came back. I found a few more things to say. So I’m still in it…in a small way. And happy about it.
Christine @ Quasi Agitato´s last blog post ..Why Didn’t She Fight For It?

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:31 am

It’s so interesting that for bloggers,Facebook is starting to re-emerge as the place to be.

Brittany April 13, 2012 at 12:21 pm

Gigi, I am with you. For me this started before the Spring. In face, the twitter burnout started months ago if not more. Finding conversations and engaging there is hard.

I am always confused because the bloggers (and they are blogs that I love) that get a ton of regular comments also participate in numerous weekly linkups but I keep reading that we should be choosy with where and how often we do these. I think they help build conversation for sure, but I have yet to really get into any of them.

Then there are the blogs that teach and they are still plugging right along. DIY, Crafts, Sewing, Travel, Blogging, Photography, baking…you name it and people are searching for that content and engaging in those communities.

I would love to hear from some personal bloggers that are “past” our stage. I guess they would be considered celebrities in blogging. Is everyone engaging on the same big blogs? Have they seen a change?

A few huge blogs I have found recently that have AWESOME conversation and active communities approach difficult content and subject matter regularly and write with skill and passion. They are intensely personal blogs but have brought that intensity out in their readers too. Guess where they are shared? Facebook. Over and over again. They have engaged a community way beyond bloggers and those people are on Facebook. And they don’t all have blogs and jobs so they have time to commit to reading really good personal content.

I have rambled on. But I am feeling the radio silence and will be making some big changes to my blog and taking some big risks to re-engage.

Loved this post. It is resonating because it is written well and because so many of us are frustrated.
Brittany´s last blog post ..Win a Full Sponsorship to the Type A Parent Conference from Brica

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:31 am

A couple of larger bloggers actually stopped by and comments (Schmutzie and Katherine from Post Partum Progress) – you should read their perspective.

I agree that if you want to maintain an active, engaged blog, you need some sort of a) beautiful visual element (people always like those and they’re easier to read) b) teach something or c) have a way of scooping up non-bloggers as readers. We may all rely on Twitter over Facebook as bloggers, but the “real” people out there are still on Facebook primarily. I find, however, that they are not as likely to share once they read. They read, and will leave a comment on your FB wall, but don’t necessarily share with their networks. Maybe it’s just my content…which is something I am starting to re-examine. :)

Agh, it never ends :)

Susan in the Boonies April 13, 2012 at 12:39 pm

I’m here. I comment.
I do think that reading on your ipad or phone makes you less prone to comment.
At SOME point, the folks who signed up in hopes of easy fame and fortune who do not achieve quick success will give up. There’s a lot of attrition in the blogs I follow list.
It’s hard to persevere, when the gains are so small.
And your friends ask you questions like, “So….have you made ANY money yet?”
Susan in the Boonies´s last blog post ..Alberto VO5 Hair Care: A Review

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:26 am

Yes, I’ve been seeing attrition consistently over two years…it’s a grind to maintain a blog…no doubt!!!

And mobile greatly affects comments. my stats showed last month that only about 25% of my readers access me via mobile. Iwas surprised it wasnt higher.then again, 25% could be a big deal if you are counting comments. I don’t, but I do see some general trends.

Aubrey Anne April 13, 2012 at 1:03 pm

Oh, I feel it. I’ve heard the silence and it’s kind of bringing me down.
Aubrey Anne´s last blog post ..Stars

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:27 am

It can be hard to not let it bring you down.the challenge is in finding one’s way out of it!

Galit Breen April 13, 2012 at 1:16 pm

It has been quieter, hasn’t it?

I think we’re all looking for that elusive balance and trying to figure out where to put our energy.

I’m not disillusioned with blogging -at all- but I am exhausted trying to keep up!

(You know how I love your thought-provokers! Well done, woman!)
Galit Breen´s last blog post ..Do You Have a Hard Time Saying No?

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:28 am

Yep…figuring out a balance is indeed exhausting. The writing itself can still be so fun….it is all the other stuff we pile on top that complicates things!

Rach (DonutsMama) April 13, 2012 at 1:44 pm

I know for me, RL got to be too busy, but also, I felt like I was spending all my spare time online and I was neglecting things like cooking, chores, reading a book or indulging in other hobbies. I missed those things. I felt chained to my computer all the time and felt like I had to comment, even if I had absolutely nothing to say. And I feel like I don’t have a lot to say on my blog at the moment. So I gave myself permission to post if I had something to say, and something meaningful to say as well. And I comment when I feel moved to (like here!). I don’t want to post for the sake of just posting. My blog is a hobby for me, so I realized I could just be relaxed about it. I know my blogging/Twitter friends will still be there when I need them.
Rach (DonutsMama)´s last blog post ..Life’s Lessons: The MIA Edition

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:30 am

Kudos to you for making the choices that work for you. It’s not an easy stand to take. I’ve done some of this recently. It is so hard but I think the trade offs are worth what you get back from re-engaging in life!

SurferWife April 13, 2012 at 1:51 pm

You know, this is great food for thought, Gigi. My silly little two cents? I think so many of us bloggers that have been around a while, have had some new doors open for us in the past year or so. This has led us away from our #1. Our blogs. Each others blogs.

I know now my time is spread between SurferWife and other brands I represent. Unfortunately, SurferWife on a whole has taken a back seat. :(

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:32 am

Yep… I think for our more intimate circle of friends,this is definitely the case. I think there is more at play, but this is a huge component for sure!!

Booyah's Momma April 13, 2012 at 11:24 pm

Thought-provoking post, for sure.

For me, it comes down to the simple fact that my priorities have shifted. Blogging used to be such an important part of my daily life. And now, it’s taken a backseat to business, other endeavors… and life in general.

I know a lot of other bloggers are in the same boat… where their blogging endeavors have opened the door to other opportunities. I think in part, this is a natural evolution of what happens when you blog, maybe?

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:37 am

Yep…many of us have used our blogs as a platform for something financially lucrative (myself included) and that naturally leaves less time for nurturing those roots. I see this dynamic, though, even with newer blogs, that there is just less engagement. It’s interesting to watch, that’s for sure!

Debi April 14, 2012 at 5:08 am

I think, for me personally, it has a lot to do with the fact that My blog has evolved and I’ve evolved as a writer( meaning that I’m actually making a living freelancing now) .This has caused me to be less engaged.Also, I have been sick on and off for the last 3 months with sinus issues and there is a LOT of changes going on in my real life right now.Im still trying to take it all in and get a handle on it.I do miss my blogging friends like crazy! Miss you mucho.xo xo
Debi´s last blog post ..Throat Punch Thursday~ 10-year-old Girl gives Birth Edition

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:39 am

Yes, it’s amazing how those dang jobs get in the way!! I hope you feel better soon. So

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:39 am

I meant xoxo

Stacey @ Tree, Root, and Twig April 14, 2012 at 5:37 am

I have some strong and potentially unpopular ideas about blogging right now – basically, that I’m super tired of things as-is. We’re a predictable bunch in many ways – we see a new opportunity for promotion or monetization and tend to wring it dry. Pinterest has become that way to me, Twitter is a mass of Twitter parties (every hour of the day now! it’s aggravating!) and blog links, I’ve even started seeing Instagram used for campaigns. Google+ came on the scene and every other post for a while was “Why you MUST be on there if you’re going to be successful in Social Media” and how to use it to get exposure. We’re busy little bees. And I say “we,” because I’m still quite guilty of a lot of it. I can’t figure out how to get off the wheel. But I feel like I’ve grown out of it. I don’t want to be submerged in the echo chamber all day. Author Brene Brown suggested that sometimes with the internet we confuse communication for connection, and what I’ve seen online is a LOT of communication, and a lot less connection. Which has taken me offline more in order to meet that very real need in my life. I have many more thoughts on this – including why I have ZERO interest in blogging conferences this year – but it gets even more ramble-y and maybe a bit too personal – including which bloggers are hard for me to read anymore because I’m tired of their MEMEME – but I really ought to stop now. ;)
Stacey @ Tree, Root, and Twig´s last blog post ..March 2012, In Pictures #instagram366

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:43 am

I for one love your honesty. Because I think you really have a bead on what’s happening. I agree with everything you’re saying…pinterest is quickly getting sullied and instagram is next. It’s not a bad thing in small doses, but when it’s everywhere you turn…not so much.

It sounds like there is a post you need to write :)

Jana (@jana0926) April 14, 2012 at 6:10 am

I was thinking this same thing the other day. I quit feeling pressure to write OMGEVERYDAY or even once a week. I write when I want to, about what I want to and don’t feel bad about not getting comments or likes. Granted, I like those things, but people are busy.

I feel like the blogosphere/twitter/FBosphere has become SO extreme on all issues. That’s off-putting to me. Life isn’t black and white. It’s Gray. Lots of Gray. Personally, I think that has a LOT to do with it. I get tired of seeing so much extremism everywhere. Everything has to be a “cause” or reason for “taking a stand against _____.” To me, that’s exhausting and causes me to stay away.

I don’t think that answered the question, but it’s how I feel :) That said, I’m going to try to be better about commenting. Because I can and because I want to!
Jana (@jana0926)´s last blog post ..That Boy

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:48 am

It is interesting to hear your perspective. I hadn’t noticed the “extremism” specifically. I think we will always see this because that’s what drives page views. :(

Jana (@jana0926) April 14, 2012 at 8:20 am

You’re right. Extreme drives traffic. But it also isolates. And drives away people. ::shrugs:: I don’t know. Wonderful conversation.
Jana (@jana0926)´s last blog post ..That Boy

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 10:41 am

Agreed. I’ve often had the urge to be more controversial to become more visible, but in the end, that is just not my voice or who I am. I think there are some bloggers who do the extreme thing pretty well…but not most.

Eco-Babyz April 14, 2012 at 6:43 am

The first comment is right on :) It’s spring! We are outside a lot more with my kids, I’m not about to bog them down with my blogging and virtual life.

My blog has landed me a great job just recently, but I will not be abandoning Eco-Babyz, it just means fewer and more meaningful posts, not ones that are forced. It means no more sponsored posts, ever – because now I can afford not to do them :) (though I never posted just for $, it always had to be in tune with my blog)

I’ve been really enjoying household stuff and chores lately, I think it is because I was so bogged down with blogging, it feels good to actually do something tangible and physical.
Eco-Babyz´s last blog post ..Naturally Fun Parties for Kids Book Review & Giveaway

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:50 am

Good for you to reconnect with those other parts of your life…and for getting a great job! :)

Katherine Stone April 14, 2012 at 6:44 am

I think it’s because we started this work mainly for the joy of it — of having a voice and using it, of having a creative outlet, of connecting to others, of helping people. And now it’s turned into a business for many. With a business comes pressure and responsibility and worry and making choices we don’t always want to make. I have less time to read and comment on other people’s blogs and do the things I enjoy doing when I started my blog almost 8 years ago.

I will say Twitter is still my favorite. I almost never see brands or Twotter parties in my stream, so I must be gollowing different people.
Katherine Stone´s last blog post ..Upcoming PPD Events in IN, CA, OR, NY, MI & NV

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 7:55 am

I agree…with making a business out of what was once a hobby or interest comes making tradeoffs of all kinds. Do we work with X company? How much time do we spend in social media v. with our families? The list goes on, and we are faced with more every day. I can’t count how many bloggers (myself included) have said “I don’t have time to read blogs anymore.” it is one of those “forgetting your roots” moments. I’m resigned to it, but it makes me sad, too!

Katherine Stone April 14, 2012 at 6:46 am

I swear I really can spell. Just typing these on my phone. ;-)
Katherine Stone´s last blog post ..Upcoming PPD Events in IN, CA, OR, NY, MI & NV

Schmutzie April 14, 2012 at 7:12 am

This is a spring affliction every year. I’ve been blogging for almost 9 years, and we all grow tired or feel disillusioned every spring. People declare that they’re closing up shop or that what they do feels futile.

Don’t worry, though. Most if us will make it through just fine.

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 8:08 am

It’s funny that you say this, because I didn’t notice it at all last year! But you’re a much more seasoned blogger than I am, so your words give me a hope that most people will pull themselves up by their bootstraps.

I do think, though, that the sense of being overwhelmed grows with the addition of each new social network….at least for me! And what is so lame is that I’m not using those new networks for discovery so much as following the same people I’m already following everywhere else! Maybe that’s another post…

Beth Confusedhomemaker April 14, 2012 at 7:15 am

I think there is a lot of varying social media out there & it is incrediably hard for a person to keep up on being active in all of it. And while we all try to figure out what is “our thing” {be it FB, Twitter, Pinterest, Blogs etc…} and how much we can truly interact on it will be a transition. I have realized I often just feel ovewhelmed with all the options & when I’m overwhelmed I tend to disconnect. Maybe that is all part of the process of figuring out what we want out of internet social interaction & social media. We disconnect & rediscover what makes us passionate & we enjoy interacting over {not just online media but also what we like in person, what we enjoy creating outside of the online paradigm}. Then we can dive back in & reconnect in a more meaningful way. I don’t know…I guess all one can do is continue to honor her {or his} voice, do what they love as much as possible & hope they are making more meaningful connections {even if there aren’t as many comments or tweets etc…} along the way.
Beth Confusedhomemaker´s last blog post ..Handiwork

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 8:10 am

I do this as well…I expand social media, get overwhelmed, then retract and regroup by disconnecting, then return again to repeat the vicious cycle. You’re right…it comes a bit with the territory!

Kesha C. April 14, 2012 at 7:23 am

Things are just beginning to heat up over here in my little corner of the blogosphere. I’m probably one of the newer kids on the playground (started last July), so I don’t have too much to compare it to; but as I’ve developed my blog, I’ve tried to break the typical “mommy blog” mold with a unique look and some funky fresh content. People seem to be taking a fancy to it…

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t believe that there’s anything wrong with the traditional mommy blog formula, but by the time you’ve seen the same baby sling giveaway and participated in your 100th blog hop with the same circle of mommy blogger friends, things have a tendency to get a little stale…

Only my opinion. Please don’t anyone plan a revolt. lol.
Kesha C.´s last blog post ..Stumble Saturdays – “A Guide to Lunchtime Social Groups” Via CollegeHumor.com

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 8:14 am

There is a natural evolution in blogging now.. A rite of passage almost. Lots of women start out doing blog hops and following a crowd. Over time, you find what works for you. It can continually change, too. That’s the challenging part of blogging as you do it longer…learning where to adapt and change and where to hold your ground. Thanks for stopping by!

erin margolin April 14, 2012 at 8:16 am

Gigi,

I am glad I’m not the only one noticing this…
Part of it is that I’m sooo busy. I read a fair amount, but don’t always have the time to comment. It’s so much easier to RT or share on FB or whatever. Plus I like to try to maintain my own blog and do a decent amount of posting and replying to comments there. and it can get dizzying. I also can’t help but feel the need to unplug more. I feel guilty being on the computer as much as I am. It’s a delicate balance. I’m all over the place. I don’t know how to juggle it all. And I hate that some blogger probably feel like I don’t care or read their stuff, but I do what I can.
And as far as posting—-there are problems there, too. I’m wanting to post more personal stuff, but some people don’t want to read my mind garbage. Or I offend members of my family when that’s not my intent.

Sorry for rambling.
loved this, Gigi.
erin margolin´s last blog post ..The Confidence to Write

Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson April 14, 2012 at 8:22 am

Gigi:

I actually think that there are so many experts telling us what we need to do to be successful bloggers. “Post three times a week, brand yourself, develop great content, hook into Facebook and Twitter.

Um. Okay, but I recently had a friend IRL tell me I’ve been invisible. And I have. And while experts say we have to treat this as a job, I don’t. It’s not okay for me to unplug from the world.

I love to write, and I’m working on my WIP – and my blog and I’m teaching. I’m planning my son’s bar mitzvah, and I spend waaay too much time online. I can’t be hooked into my phone and having it ping me with alerts. I just can’t. And that’s why I’ll never be a big blogger. And I’m okay with it. I don’t feel short on material. I just think I need to be present for my very IRL family and friends.

There just aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything, but at the end of the day, I’d like to curl around my husband and have talked to him a little bit. I still like to talk to people on the phone and go for walks. I have goals for my blog, but I don’t aspire to conquer the blogosphere. So I guess I’d say I’m satisfied. I have my regular readers & commenters. I’m here for the haul. That takes a certain kind of energy that is difficult to maintain.
Renee A. Schuls-Jacobson´s last blog post ..So You Think You’re Smart: A #LessonLearned by Jamie Golden

kludgymom April 14, 2012 at 10:44 am

Well said!!! I’m one of those people who shares with others how to blog better…but I have grown to understand that that advice won’t work for everybody, especially when taken to such extremes that it eclipses your real life. In the end, we all need to respect each other’s healthy boundaries.

Kim Tracy Prince April 14, 2012 at 8:48 am

I joined a challenge because of this. Every day in April, I’m posting – and it takes my mind off of the malaise. Plus it has introduced me to a wealth of new blogs written by people who don’t place as much emphasis on the more tiresome aspects of our social media competition. They just want to write. It’s invigorating.
Kim Tracy Prince´s last blog post ..Sh*t I Say: “Listen, Respect, and Do the Best You Can”

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:20 am

The challenge sounds awesome. Can you share the link so I can check it out?

Kim Tracy Prince April 15, 2012 at 8:18 am

Sure! It’s the April A-to-Z Challenge – I’ve done well so far. You see how I did it, here, and the link at the top of all the posts sends you to the challenge website. They have around 1600 bloggers involved!

http://www.kimtracyprince.com/tag/april-a-to-z/
Kim Tracy Prince´s last blog post ..Sh*t I Say: “Listen, Respect, and Do the Best You Can”

Cluttered Brain April 14, 2012 at 9:06 am

I totally agree! but I haven’t been really doing my part. I’ve been busy searching for jobs and such and writing about 1 post a week. Top # of comments I get? 5. Where if I have a really good post I’d get at least 10 or 15 comments.
It might be the Spring weather.
but I’m sticking around for the long haul. We can at least comment on each other’s blogs…..:)
Are you partying at UBP2012 this year? Just wondering.
Cluttered Brain´s last blog post ..Come and PARTY with me at the ULTIMATE BLOG PARTY 2012!!

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:21 am

Not doing the UBP…I love Janice and Susan! But I found that the blogs that participated the last couple of years were mostly bloggers who ended up just wanting traffic, not interaction.

Jamie April 14, 2012 at 9:26 am

I’ve definitely noticed the lack of activity on twitter. I think a huge part is the nice weather, but there are also so many options coming around in social media. PINTEREST ;) took a huge amount to that. Perhaps the activities that people are being invited out to are increasing leaving less time for social media and more time for lively interacting.

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:22 am

Agreed. We’re all spending way more time spreading ourselves thin in social media instead of laying it on thick in the ones that are most fruitful (either connections, networking, etc.) for our individual blogs!

Candi April 14, 2012 at 9:57 am

I am still new at this, but I have noticed the last few weeks, it has been quieter, but I know my kids have been on vacation and different weeks unfortunately, and I have neglected my duties as a fellow blogger to be more involved. I hope to change that in the next few weeks.
Candi´s last blog post ..I made the move from blogger to wordpress

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:22 am

Yes, vacations will take a big toll on the level of interaction you see on your blog. Interestingly, though, the last two years I’ve seen my summertime comments shoot way up – I thought they’d drop off!

Nina B April 14, 2012 at 1:57 pm

Ah, i’m late to the party as usual. I love that you brought up this topic, and I’m obviously not alone. My excitement with blogging comes and goes. I’ve always posted once a week only though so that’s helped keep things sane. I’m also not monetized and that helps me too. (in terms of mental health . . . obviously money would be great, but I can’t put the time into what it would take like self-hosting, etc.)

I agree with many above, especially Julie G and Renee and also with Ginger who pointed out that as a group we tend to get all excited about something then suck the life out of it (that last part is my own summary of what I think she was saying.) She is so right that Pinterest is the newest example.

Julie and Renee implied this, but i’m going to just say it (and I’ve been saying it for a while but talking to myself, it seems!) . . . I think Triberr has ruined the Twitter stream. It’s organized tit-for-tat and that’s why I tend not to click on that many RT’ed posts. I mean, how many posts can really be “best ever” and a “must read.” It’s too much. It just is. And those tweets start to read like white noise instead of words.

Thanks for getting this conversation going, Gigi.
Nina B´s last blog post ..Quarterly Book & Movie Challenge Check In

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:25 am

Interestingly, in my stream, Triberr RTs have really dropped off. I hardly see them anymore – I know that I didn’t use it for long before I got annoyed with it, and a lot of my friends felt the same way and abandoned the service.But yes, if you’re still getting those..it is a big turnoff because the endorsement seems so insincere.

And yes, there is constantly a new “it girl” in social media that we all trot off to figure out. That part? Totally exhausts me.

Thanks for coming by, Nina!

Devan McGuinness April 14, 2012 at 8:04 pm

ive noticed the same thing happening and I can’t
Quite put my finger on what’s going on. I think it may be part on the winter blues and the start of spring but my sites been quiet both in comments (and posts).

Sandra April 14, 2012 at 8:26 pm

So funny to read this post today as i am posting something similar tomorrow about when is the right rime to quit blogging. Defimitely somerhing in the air…boredom perhaps…disappointment?
Sandra´s last blog post ..Mother/Daughter Sex Ed Talk

kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:25 am

Please RT your post to me so I can read it (in case I forget!!!) I hope you’re not thinking of quitting!

Kelley April 15, 2012 at 6:14 am

Speaking of time suck, I want to read all of these comments! Yeah, I think we all experience the rut. Blogging and engaging in social media is definitely overwhelming at times. It’s all about giving it seems- commenting, RT’ing, etc. I’m also into Favstar, a site that is linked to Twitter for people who like one-liners on Twitter. I absolutely love it, but that is time consuming, too. I think if it weren’t for paid writing gigs that reference back to my blog, I probably wouldn’t keep up with my blog much. It is lots of fun, but I feel like it consumes so much of my week. What to do, what to do….
Kelley´s last blog post .."If you don’t know me by now (a song for my cleaners)", not by Simply Red

joann mannix April 15, 2012 at 7:15 am

Geeg,

You have this perfect little hammer that always manages to hit that nail smack dab on its head. I bet you it’s pink, too, isn’t it and blinged out?

Well, you know my reasons. I didn’t realize everyone else was feeling the same malaise. I figured I was getting less interaction because I’m so rarely around.

I think it’s all cyclical. Social networking is a tough gig, taking up a lot of time and energy, so maybe blog and twitter burnout are an inevitable part of the process. For me, it all gets a little overwhelming sometimes, especially when I’m trying to write and so I just turn off my twitter feed, ignore all the wonderful blogs out there and crawl into my writer’s cave. Otherwise, I’d never get anything done.

But no matter what happens in this vast universe of the blogosphere, I’d like to think the words of the one-hit wonder group, Vitamin C, will ring true for our circle of blogger buddies,

As we go on,
We remember
All the times we had together
And as our lives change
Come whatever
We will still be friends forever

La, La, La, La, La
Yeah, Yeah

(I had to include a few la, la’s. It’s my favorite part.) XXXOOO
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kludgymom April 15, 2012 at 7:19 am

Yes to everything you said. I do hope (and believe) that some friendships will transcend any blogger attrition, malaise or certain bloggers skyrocketing into fame and fortune in the publishing world :)

Sili April 15, 2012 at 9:52 am

I think I’m going to do a case study on this topic for my class! Will definitely come back to this post and all of your comments!

I’ve been feeling the same way, though but figured it was just me.
Sili´s last blog post ..It’s PaWii Time!!!!

becky April 15, 2012 at 11:06 am

Totally enjoyed reading all these comments…definitely worth it as I’ve been experiencing the malaise myself. I thought it was just me, my one-dimensionality or something. Glad to know I’m not rowing the boat alone :)

Kim @ the fordeville diaries April 15, 2012 at 12:03 pm

Great post. So well said. And I happen to totally agree. The comments, the interaction, etc, have all dropped off lately. And personally, I have all but abandoned my former love, Twitter. I just hit a Twitter wall — it was too much — of what, I can’t quite articulate.
Kim @ the fordeville diaries´s last blog post ..Out of the Office

Shell April 15, 2012 at 1:50 pm

Spring break killed me. Or just about.

I know I’ve dropped off of twitter a lot. I just don’t have time to stay on there much. I’ll have short convos with people and then get off. I like facebook a lot more b/c what I post isn’t irrelevant 20 seconds later when it’s been moved down the page like with twitter. Plus I like everyone being able to see the full conversation instead of having to repeat myself like with twitter.

Also- I feel like I’m on twitter, but it’s for clients more than for me. But I don’t take the extra time to tweet as me.

My comments have dropped somewhat- not drastic, but they are lower. But I put that down to me not having as much time to comment on others’ blogs lately- mostly due to family stuff.
Shell´s last blog post ..Things They Can’t Say: Love That Max

Tonya April 15, 2012 at 3:34 pm

I love this and all the comments too. I have also noticed the quiet.

I’m grateful for my continued supporters and the friendships I have established through blogging.

For me, it’s all about lack of time. I just don’t have enough of it; not with a still relatively new freelance gig that I love and posts I *must* write for my own sanity for my own space. I do my best to respond to comments and visit the blogs I love, but for the most part, I just don’t have enough free time.

Plus, as others have said, it’s a very busy time of the year and with summer just around the corner, I’m afraid it’s going to get a lot quieter.
Tonya´s last blog post ..Five Hearts

Kristin @ What She Said April 15, 2012 at 6:03 pm

I’ve actually had a pretty good run of posts lately that have inspired a lot of dialogue and conversation. As a result, both my traffic and comments are up. And then I hosted a guest post series on family planning while I was on vacation that sustained them.

That said, now I’m home and I have absolutely zero motivation to jump back into my blog. I’m chalking it up to post-vacation blues and will give it a few days – hopefully it’ll pass and I’ll get back into the groove. I’d hate to lose my momentum now.
Kristin @ What She Said´s last blog post ..Guest Post: Just the Three of Us

Kristi {at} Live and Love Out Loud April 15, 2012 at 7:08 pm

Fantastic post and great questions too. I, too, have been fairly silent on Twitter. With everything going on in my personal life and paid blogging life, I just don’t always have the time. I also can’t keep up with Google Plus, LinkedIn, etc. I’m trying to streamline and choose my social media poison wisely. I just cannot invest my time in every single outlet and still have enough to give to my family and to myself as well. I’m not sure what’s happening in the blogosphere, but I’m not ready to walk away. My photography niche is still thriving and keeping me inspired. It’ll be interesting to see how things pan out over the summer when things slow down even more.

Hope you’re doing well, Gigi. Long time no talk! Take care!
Kristi {at} Live and Love Out Loud´s last blog post ..Leap Into Spring Photo Challenge: Easter/Eggs {Plus Photography Composition Tips}

Marta April 15, 2012 at 7:30 pm

I have noticed it in a way. I guess I’m different because I was blogging for years before I had any idea that this whole blogging community existed. I wrote to write, and my friends commented. I didn’t know that there was conferences, and cliques, and big bloggers and small bloggers and every thing in between. And knowing about it all has definitely changed how I looked at my blog and what I write, but when I feel this sort of discouragement and perhaps even boredom I remember why I started in the first place and so far its been a good enough reason for me to continue.
Marta´s last blog post ..Easter. Uncensored.

Leigh Ann April 16, 2012 at 10:13 am

Oh, I wish I could read all 123 comments ahead if mine!

I have been feeling the same way. I originally thought it was just me. I had to stop using tweetdeck because it was too hard on my aging Mac, and I just don’t interact as much on Twitter web. It’s not the same when I don’t get to see the tweets scroll by. Also, I think twitter just lost a lot of its novelty for me. I see tweets and links, but my eyes just kind of pass over them, and I assume that that happens to my tweets as well. I get crickets from just about anything I put out there. Much less interaction, but at the same time, I’m not interacting either. I get way more action from Facebook.

Seems like everyone is just so busy and has been working on other projects. Between my blog (only posting twice a week if I’m lucky), the 2 other blogs I write for, and trying to stay on top of life itself, I just don’t have time for much else. Plus, I stopped participating in memes and linkups because a) I felt it was stifling my writing, and b) I just don’t have time to visit the other people who link up. I barely get to touch the blogs filed under “daily” in my reader, and even then I rarely comment. My comments have suffered a bit for it, but in the end, I’m happier with my writing and my posts.

I don’t know what is in store for the blogophere. I truly enjoy the relationships I made here.
Leigh Ann´s last blog post ..Weird feelings and ramblings and such

Jackie April 16, 2012 at 10:59 am

I don’t know what I could say that others haven’t already said… I think it’s all been covered though.

I miss the conversation a lot though. It really was my favorite part of blogging.
Jackie´s last blog post ..Monday Menu ~ Breakfast Omelet Muffins

Nicole @MTDLBlog April 19, 2012 at 7:37 am

I second Jackie’s sentiment here! I do miss seeing the conversations going….I’m not saying I’m not part of the problem, but I miss seeing those familiar faces having chats in my twitter stream. :-)
Nicole @MTDLBlog´s last blog post ..She’s My Hero {Wordful Wednesday}

Charlotte April 16, 2012 at 11:05 am

Glad I’m not the only one; I was beginning to think I was going crazy. It seems with the warm weather, people are (gasp!) getting up from their computers and spending more time outdoors. I’m liking this change (but do hope we all return safely and get back to blogging soon. I miss everyone!).
Charlotte´s last blog post ..Passover and Easter recap

The Flying Chalupa April 16, 2012 at 9:00 pm

I could literally hear Sarah Jessica Parker narrating this. Is that weird?

And yeah, I feel the silence, but I thought it was just me, all isolated and constantly breastfeeding and mourning my lack of sleep.

Write a follow-up post on this would you? What, exactly, are people saying?

Emmy April 17, 2012 at 8:22 am

Well at least this post woke up the masses for you. But I agree- there is just so much social media and areas we are supposed to spend time in that it makes it hard and sometimes feels easier just not to do it.
I think there is definitely some seasonality to it- but yes this shift does feel deeper than that. I know lately I have been feeling more and more like I want to be really living my life more and if that means not reading as many blogs than really that is a good thing.
Maybe a lot of us who dived for a few years now have realized what we may have missed along the way.
Great post

ChiMomWriter April 17, 2012 at 7:50 pm

I’ve noticed it. I thought it was because I’d stepped back more to focus on life chaos, but the circles I’d seen that were most active for me have gone pretty dark. I’ve spent a lot more time on Facebook over Twitter because of the engagement levels.

I’m part of the “problem,” as I’m in that uninspired lull. I sit in front of the computer and the writing absolutely eludes me.
ChiMomWriter´s last blog post ..Grown-ups Sissy Fight, Too

Eve April 19, 2012 at 6:39 am

I really think it’s just spring fever and conferences and whatnot. I noticed a huge drop off in traffic to both my blogs. But then again, I’ve only been posting once a week for the past few weeks. This week I haven’t posted at all. I’ve been spending more time playing outside with my boy and capturing photos of him as he playfully gives mommy mini-heart attacks by jumping around like a mad man. I think once summer rolls around, more bloggers will take to the computers indoors in an effort to combat the rising temperatures, avoid never-ending questions from toddlers, and find refuge in connecting with other moms online.
Eve´s last blog post ..That Time I Met Scary Mommy

suzanne @ pretty swell April 19, 2012 at 7:24 am

Lately, if I step away from the computer for a few days (whether self-imposed or not), I find that I don’t miss the online community. I like my real life better. My family, my friends, my home and even my job. I’m guilty of neglecting every single one of them — repeatedly — for my blog, or to dash off a quick tweet, or to check my Facebook page. It sure is easy to get sucked in, but I refuse to live my life online. In fact, I’m constantly amazed by women who tweet or post every single moment of their days. Where is the time for that? Who are you neglecting to make that happen?

Don’t get me wrong. I feel lucky to have made solid friendships online, and I’m grateful for the little community that’s formed around my blog. I just need to give more time and attention to my real life and the people in it. That’s what matters most to me.

Thanks for having the courage to post on this topic! These thoughts have been swimming around my head for a while now … it’s refreshing to get to share them here.
suzanne @ pretty swell´s last blog post ..Confessions

Nicole @MTDLBlog April 19, 2012 at 7:41 am

What a great thread of conversation Gigi! And it actually made me feel better about how things have been going over in my little space in the blogosphere. It’s hard not to take some of those things personally when you here “crickets” but I guess we’re all just managing our lives and trying to balance many things. But, I miss my friends and I miss the active conversations and interactions. But, I, too have been trying to balance it better and be more present for my family. Additionally, I’ve been working more and that does play a role too. It’s tough. I’m so glad you started this conversation! At least we know we’re not alone in thinking that this has been going on! :)
Nicole @MTDLBlog´s last blog post ..She’s My Hero {Wordful Wednesday}

melissa April 19, 2012 at 7:43 am

I have noticed it for sure. I think there are so many factors – people getting burnt out, the good weather, lots of bloggers I follow have major life changes going on. For me personally, I’m still posting regularly but my engagement on Twitter is way down and that is mostly because for the industry I work in, this is a VERY busy time of year. I can’t spend the time reading blogs, commenting and tweeting that I used to a few months ago. I just mentioned today that I had over 600 posts in my Google Reader because I’ve been so busy I haven’t had time to read anything.

As far as the zillions of social media outlets out there, I’ve chosen to just stick to the few I really love. If I try to be on EVERYthing, it will get to be way too much of a chore and I don’t want blogging to become that.
melissa´s last blog post ..Today, I just need to write

Vinobaby (aka Kerry Ann) April 19, 2012 at 8:39 am

Thank God, it’s not just me. Granted, I’m just a little guppy in the blogosphere, but the recent lack of comments and communication had me wondering if I had ticked the whole world off or I should just slap a giant ‘L’ on my forehead. I needed to cut back on blog time anyway due to other obligations, at least temporarily, but then I’d squeezing in time I really didn’t have to post and…nothing. Why bother?

I have been stepping back from twitter for at least the last few weeks. So. Much. Spam. I have to dig too hard to find anything of real value or interest. And half the time I get hit with spam if I comment about anything. I mention pink nail polish and I get hit with five people trying to sell it to me. I don’t need that.

I’d love to bump up my FB community, but I never get any response there.

P.S. I think you’ve found everyone now.
Vinobaby (aka Kerry Ann)´s last blog post ..When School Shootings Hit Too Close To Home

Carpool Goddess April 19, 2012 at 12:43 pm

Great post and great comments! I’ve noticed it too. I think everyone who isn’t outside enjoying the nice weather, is on Pinterest. A friend of mine who is new to blogging, wonders if anyone will ever read her stuff since there are so many of us now (numbers growing daily!), and who has the time to read and comment on everything . Many of my non-blogging friends will tell me they enjoyed my post when I speak to them, but won’t take the time to comment. I also find people will either comment on your FB page or your website, but not both.

DB Landes April 20, 2012 at 8:51 pm

I was hoping it was the onset of Spring, too. I know I’d rather be outside than typing away on my computer. But it’s pretty remarkable how quiet it’s become. Maybe we should all take a social media vacation for a week and then get back to it.
DB Landes´s last blog post ..Photo Finish – Soccer Mom

Barbara April 21, 2012 at 4:47 am

I commented the first day you wrote this post and decided to check back and see what others were saying. WHOA!

It really makes sense. I logged into Twitter the other day and 90% of the tweets were self promotion or product promotion. Twitter used to be discussion and sharing information and now it seems like one giant commercial.

I’m tempted to do a mass un-follow and focus my stream on the people that are genuine, engaging, etc.

In an effort to build my own follower bank, I ended up following too many Beachbody coaches and moms hawking Baby Einstein DVDs, toy reviews, etc.

The funny thing is…..I’m not going to drink a Shakeology shake and my kids outgrew Baby Einstein ages ago. I simply followed people like that back to grow my own audience. The catch is those people aren’t listening to me anymore than I listen to them.

Twitter these days seems like a room full of people that are shouting but not listening. There are a few great people trying to keep a conversation going but it’s too hard to hear them over all the noise. Maybe if I cut down the guest list in my feed, I’ll enjoy it more. If a smaller audience makes me seem “less than” to a brand, so be it.

At the end of the day, I blog because I enjoy it not because I want to be a big fish in the community. Sure, I’d love to make money at it but if I try to pander to brands and look like a big deal because of my social media “followers” people will tune me out just as fast as I tune them out.

Just some rambling thoughts…..it’s early….where’s my coffee? ;)
Barbara´s last blog post ..Whole 30 Challenge – Improvements After 5 Days

kludgymom April 26, 2012 at 12:06 pm

It’s funny…but I never thought that by writing a post about the downturn in comments and real social media activity, that I’d get more comments than I have in awhile! Who knew?

I think it’s inevitable to have this expansion of your social media, then a contraction – I said it to another commenter. Otherwise, it would end up being a) truly noise and b) so overwhelming you just can’t keep up!

Elaine A. April 25, 2012 at 9:37 pm

Honestly. I’m a bit overwhelmed.

Without going into it too much, I just feel like there is WAY too much to pay attention to these days. I used to JUST blog and read/comments on other blogs. Now I “have” to tweet and check FB and pin a few things and post pics to Instagram and respond to comments and on and on an on…

Oh and pay attention to my kids/husband/IRL friends/life.

Yeah, it’s all getting to be too much and I think we are all feeling it.

kludgymom April 26, 2012 at 11:57 am

One can feel like a ping-pong ball sometimes, bouncing back and forth between all the different “things” we’re supposed to do..and when you finish, you start all over again. I’ve been overwhelmed too, and recently dialed back in a big way. I almost look back wistfully on the days when I only had blogs to read/comment and Facebook. Life seemed so much simpler then :)

Stasha April 25, 2012 at 10:49 pm

For me lately it has been hard to swallow and I am really disappointed. I look at the popular IG page and there are no candid photos, just brands. I look at blogs and it is all reviews and ads. I look at my pinterest and I am getting spammed!
I understand social media holds great potential for advertising and I am not saying I would say no to making thousands of $ but the balance between content seems to have tipped a lot. Maybe it is just me…
Stasha´s last blog post ..Alison’s baby bash

kludgymom April 26, 2012 at 12:00 pm

It’s hard no matter what side of the monetization fence one is on…If you’re not into it, you don’t want to read a ton of it. If you’re trying to do a little, you feel like you’re still spamming your friends with how oversaturated everything is. What blows my mind is that the onslaught of new social networks and tools just keeps coming – which means more of same….

JDaniel4's Mom April 26, 2012 at 1:52 pm

I think my dip really caused me to look at the quality of my posts and where I promote them. Facebook and Pinterest are where I am finding the most traffic from.
JDaniel4′s Mom´s last blog post ..When God Needs Bubbles, JDaniel Will Send Them!

RoryBore April 26, 2012 at 8:13 pm

I’ve been blogging for quite a few years now, and I certainly have noticed that a lot of bloggers that come on the scene – come on hard and fast. They are Everywhere – tweet, like, pin, google plus, link up link up — and now? they are burning out. disappearing. And you can always see the fade away coming as if in slow motion. It has saddened me greatly when it happened to several great blogs I followed. But, the majority are moms….and I honestly don’t know how they even did it to begin with. but am not surprised that they couldn’t keep up the pace.
I write because I enjoy it. I read others because they inspire me. Hopefully, every now and then I inspire someone too. And hopefully, we all encourage one another to be better.
But honestly, you just can’t be full time on social media AND in real life. something has to give. And I think that is what we are seeing now. The social media love affair boomed big……and now, it the inevitable roll down.
RoryBore´s last blog post ..Quotable Bits #16 – Love Sticks

Dumb mom April 26, 2012 at 10:19 pm

Heck yeah I’ve noticed. I’m sure all of the thing people have already mentioned can all be blamed: balance, work demands, spring time, family. I have to admit though that it does make me a little sad some days. I miss interacting with my friends this way and now some of my “blog” friends who I felt so connected to are going the way of my irl friends; too busy to connect. I get it but I don’t know how much I like it! I’m happy for people but I can’t help but miss some of the things I fell in love with in blogging.
Dumb mom´s last blog post ..Formerly Frumpy Friday. Flat-tabulous!

tracey April 27, 2012 at 7:22 am

It’s totally normal. I’ve been blogging for six years (gah!) and it happens on a cycle. Don’t worry: you’ll get back into again and be all revived and so will your circle.
tracey´s last blog post ..Would you like some Fries with that?

Diane Hughes May 8, 2012 at 2:21 pm

I just marked my one-year blogging anniversary, and I have definitely noticed a difference as of late. Like others have noted here, I’m blaming Triberr. It’s like everyone is talking but no one is really listening. I won’t share content that I don’t read first, and I won’t share it if I don’t think it’s good. I think there’s too much of that going on now. And Twitter seems to have lost it’s social element. I don’t see as much genuine interaction going on lately.

Broot May 17, 2012 at 11:36 am

Blogging (and earning money for it) peaked already, I think. Much too hard for a new blogger to do it now, unless they’re exceptionally good. Way too much work. You have to sit on your computer or phone the whole day, every day to keep it going.

And when Facebook was exciting and new, everybody was interacting with it. Now, we understand it and how it works, so it’s not as exciting. Same thing with Twitter and Pinterest and all the rest. We’re all bored and looking for the next big thing.

Anybody know what the next big thing is? You’ll probably make a mint. ;)
Broot´s last blog post ..Recording ideas while driving

Chrissy Glen September 11, 2012 at 4:47 pm

Awesome post, I took a bit of a social media and blogging sabatical when I started my divorce process. Blogging was put to the, “if I can get to it” list. I even was paying another mom to keep my readers informed on my website by updating my resource lists and posting hyper local posts. Now I have a volunteer mom helping with some and I’ve recommitted a few hours a week, which is way more balanced then the hours I was putting in. I’m enjoying it again, but I thought I was the only one doing this, so it’s reassuring to see your post.

I agree with you that those of us blogging for years now are looking into deeper meanings to our blog? That I noticed when I went to Blogher12. So many bloggers I haven’t seen in almost 2 years were mentioning charities and foundations they were starting. This is something I’m also in the middle of myself! Its exciting to see bloggers making even more of a difference using there influence for even more than before!

I haven’t got into Google+ or Pintrest. It was just too much and it seems the majority of my audience is moms in PA & NJ, so Facebook is really #1 for me. That and button exchanges with local Bloggers, Local News Sites, Mom Groups & Consignment Sales are my best bets, so for now I stick to where the local parents are. I also friend and suggest my page to bloggers with the hopes of staying up to date with each others blogs.
Chrissy Glen´s last blog post ..Snow White & the Huntsman Fairy Tale for Grown-Ups!

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