After a brief hiatus from the Bonfire series last week, we’re back with another post today!
I’ve known Jackie from With Just A Bit of Magic for years now. She finds herself in a parenting situation that most of us don’t find ourselves in. But one thing we will all face as parents is dealing with teenagers, and that’s the subject of her post today.
After a brief hiatus in our Bonfire series due to Halloween, we’re back this week with another new post.
I’m a minority. No, not because I’m a woman, but because I’m a 40 year old mom of teens. There I said it… I’m old, but that’s not what this is all about.
Most of the bloggers that I’ve met out there are in their early to mid 30’s and have young kids, like 10 or younger while I’m one of the few who have who have teens (2 girls… 16 and 13), a tween (a girl who is 10), and a toddler (the only boy who is 2 ½).
The 3 T’s.
Now at this point you’re either laughing or feeling sorry for me or both. Go ahead – I’d do the same thing and honestly there are times I wonder how I still have a shred of sanity left.
So let me share a little story with you about recent happenings at my house with the oldest.
A bit of backstory first…. she had a long time boyfriend, 2 years, and then he graduated from high school and moved out of state to go to college. Of course they broke up and she decided that she wasn’t going to date anymore and instead focus on school and stuff like that.
Summer came and she started hanging out with friends a lot more than she had in the past and was having a great time. This made me really happy because I was afraid that she was going to miss out on so much of the fun that happened in high school by being so focused on one guy and her studies. I don’t know about you but I have a lot of fond memories of high school and had a lot of fun!
She hung out with girls and guys because Cait has always been friends with everyone no matter what. So the summer passed into fall and she was spending more and more time with two guys that she had been in the same class with since 2nd grade and I thought nothing of. Until one of them would pick her up at the house, pay for her food when they all went out to eat, and offer to hang out with her often. The kicker was when he asked her to the homecoming dance… because he “felt bad” for her because he knew that she really wanted to go and nobody else had asked her. My first thought… whatever. It’s a date. They’re dating.
She has vehemently denied that they were dating. She has refused up and down that they’re not together. She has done everything to try and convince us that they’re simply friends and that dating him would be like dating her brother. I think she even said, “eww… we’ve been best friends since 2nd grade mom!” My thought… whatever.
You know what? At first I believed her but as time passed it just seemed odd to me with all the time that they were spending together, him picking her up, paying for this or that, even though they hung out with other people it was getting more difficult for me to believe that they were just friends.
Well, this week I pushed a bit more and when she said that they (meaning her, the non-boyfriend & a couple others) were going to hang out my response was a flat out no. I told her that I couldn’t believe that they weren’t dating and that she needed to tell me the truth once and for all and then when she did she could go. I knew that I was right. I mean come on… I was a teen once a long time ago but things aren’t that much different!
Yea, she refused to give in and answer me. I figured that since she went upstairs that she was there for the night… until she came down dressed.
Finally! Finally, she admitted that they were dating! I just love being right! I may have done a happy dance in my head.
Teens aren’t easy. They don’t like to share much of anything that’s going on in their lives. They think that they know everything and you never know what each day is going to bring. I really think that they tend to forget that at one point in our lives we were just like them… we were teens too who thought we knew it all.
I don’t know how to keep the communication open, honest, and flowing with teens. Do you?
So those of you with toddlers, preschoolers, or elementary age kids…. enjoy it! Enjoy it while it lasts because all too soon they’ll turn into teens who think you’re a moron.
Jackie is a wife, mother of 4 kids from toddler to teen, a project manager, a writer, and social media consultant and to pull it all off it takes a bit of magic! And yes… she does have a magic wand! Find her on social media: