Today, you’re getting a kiss. MommaKiss that is, who is my guest today. MommaKiss is an amazing lady…and her blog is equal parts big heart and big sass. Some of my favorite writing of Momma’s is when she writes about her life growing up, because she does it with a tenderness that belies her sarcastic, pigtailed bloggy exterior. Today, her favorite Thanksgiving.
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I was 10. My parents were divorced. My Momma was starting a new college and had to move us from Michigan to Wisconsin. I was young enough not to get all emotional about the move, but I knew Momma was scared. I’m one of six kids, but just us two “little’s” moved with her. My third oldest brother stayed back, even though he was still in high school. He stayed with a friend’s family because he simply refused to move at the ripe old age of 16. And the other two older brothers were in college, living the dream. The oldest, my only sister, she had left long ago for the Wild West so we were used to her not being around.
So we moved. Momma packed a u-haul van and on the 6-ish hour trip, my little brother and I kept her company for most of the drive. Until we fell asleep, of course.
We settled into an apartment and it was just a week before school started. There were a few kids in the apartment complex that we got to know, but starting a new school at that age wasn’t easy. The most important thing is that my brother and I always had each other’s back. We got through the first month OK but missed home a bit. We missed our big brothers and aunts and uncles. Momma started up a calendar with a count down to Thanksgiving.
You see, at Thanksgiving, my big brothers were coming to visit us for the first time. Good Lord was I excited when the day arrived! My little brother and I spent an hour on the front deck waiting to see their car on the street. When they finally pulled into the parking lot, we raced down the steps and were banging on the doors to the car and were scooped up in Big Brother hugs like it would be our last. Of course it wasn’t, but we couldn’t help it.
Momma just waited in the kitchen, on tip toes peeking out the window. She let us be silly siblings. Now that I’m older and wiser, I’m pretty sure she was a crazy mess inside wanting to hug her boys, too. But she waited. She let us get ‘fireman carried’ and get our hair mussed up. The big boys arrived on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and it was just like last year. Except we were now in a 2 bedroom apartment. Didn’t matter. We sat close and had a slumber party on the floors. We all ate breakfast at the tiny kitchen table.
Thanksgiving morning, Momma was up with the sun cooking and baking and mixing and loving every second. Momma had borrowed a folding table from our church, which was set up in the living room of our apartment. We bumped elbows and spilled milk and ate every single morsel of food.
Momma let me say the toast – what was I thankful for – and I got all shy and bashful. I was the only girl among those 4 boys and didn’t want to get all mushy so I just said “Thank you for cooking, Momma. And Thank God Big Brother A is wearing clean socks.”
I wish I had said more. I think they know what I was feeling.
I’m still very close with my brothers. The three alive and the one in heaven. There have been many holidays since that Thanksgiving. All together in one home, or just a few visiting each other. I’ve had incredible holidays with my new family, as well. But yah, that Thanksgiving of 1984, holds a special place in my heart and is by far my favorite.


















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This is so beautifully written it put tears in my eyes. Really, it shows you that no matter what the circumstances are, the love of a family will always be strong. Thank you for sharing this lovely part of your precious history.
Maureen´s last [type] ..The D Word &8211 A Stigma Story
My Momma made sure that we always felt special. Even tho we had very little.
There is no price that can be put on sibling love.
Like I’ve seen lately with your sister
– wish my sister was not such a DB.
oh MommaKiss! clean socks are underrated mostly.
“mostly”
Those boys? Used to pay me a quarter each foot to take their socks off after football practice. And I did it.
Funny Momma Kiss…that was my exact same toast this year
Natalie´s last [type] ..A Letter From Santa Postmarked North Pole!
Natalie, my friend. We’re so alike. Heh.
Ah, too too lovely.
Nothing like running to greet someone you love with all your heart.
It’s like the love grows with every step.
Lori @ In Pursuit of Martha Points´s last [type] ..How to Create a Black Hole
It’s like when you see in the movies – that run toward someone – like in an airport. Full Steam ahead for hugs.
Beautifully told.
Thanks Amy
That was nice to read because BOTH OF MY BROTHERS are driving me crazy…no really, CRAZY…and i have been trying to figure out how to become an only child retroactively. Want to exchange?
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Lynn, some times they bug me, too. Like this past year when NONE of them acknowledged my birthday. I still love them. don’t like them much right now.
Beautiful post. I have a passel of big brothers, plus a huge number of little sisters. And I could feel the ache of missing them, there in your post.
Lovely, lovely tribute to family at Thanksgiving time.
Well, I’m with you on the brothers. The missing them. Wish I were closer with my sister.
This was a beautiful story. And I honestly think your toast was the best.
Not bad for a 10 year old, huh?
They definitely knew how you felt. It’s hard to say the words sometimes, but they knew from the hugs and the horseplay. What a beautiful post! Thanks for sharing.
thank you – and since our lil brother died, we make it a point to say the words…live for today.
Gigi, I’m so happy to be part of this Thanksgiving Table. Thank you for having me and my Big Sass
This story makes me want 6 kids. I just love you.
Having lots of siblings makes for great story telling – Love ya back.
I hope my kids can grow up & have fond memories as siblings.
And I’m with Poppy, it makes me want to squeeze out a few more babies too.
Squeeze out a few more babies. Sadly, they don’t stay babies, but I know what you mean.
I don’t know WHAT Poppy is talking about but there are tears in my eyes… mostly hot jealous tears since I don’t have this relationship with my brothers and the only thing I remember about childhood Thanksgivings is being stuck doing the dishes.
That and my Dad’s cranberry relish and how weird my mom was to like cold pumpkin pie for breakfast.
Love you MK…you too Gigi, for bringing together all these wonderful writers!
I think Poppy smoked a few too many, you know, over Thanksgiving…It’s always sad when siblings don’t get along – and we don’t always – but we love each other – that’s the main thing.
Oh Mommak, love this. I can’t even imagine going through that and being separated…but the fact that you all got together? Awesome. Glad you have that memory. Tuck it away for rainy days
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We moved around a lot after that and just sorta got used to not seeing each other every day. Once or twice a year now, which is actually pretty great. We don’t get sick of each other
Isn’t it amazing, when we stop and think back on all that has happened in our lives, that makes us who we are?
So many stories, from everyone.
Thankgs, Gigi..for sparking our memories.
We sometimes forget who we are.
There are so many stores that I could point to that helped ‘form me’ – mainly my mother’s love for her children and knowing now what she did for us. Sacrificed for us. Incredible.
Sweet story of a new beginning!
Thanks
This is very sweet, family makes the holidays special no matter where we have to gather.
Joey @ Big Teeth & Clouds´s last [type] ..Feel Good Friday – A well placed stay home day
Sometimes it’s just me and my husband and kids – which gets sad, but it’s not hectic. When we’re all together and chaos ensues – that’s awesome.
What a sweet story. And that toast was absolutely perfect. I’m sure they knew exactly what you were thinking.
I hope so.
Almost makes me wish I had siblings. At least for the lovely pounding on the car kind of reunion moments.
Wow, MK, such a good one. I love the line ‘bumping elbows and spilling milk.’ The most apt way to describe a table scene with a large family.
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