Social Media Needs Grace, Too

by Gigi Ross on May 20, 2013

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I knew something bad had happened because I began seeing a lot of “prayers for Oklahoma” updates in my Facebook feed.

I hopped over to Twitter to see what was happening there.

As usual, I was greeted with disappointment – like I am every time a disaster strikes.

I found the normal array of post-disaster grumblings and finger-pointings. A lack of grace.

People slamming other people for letting scheduled tweets slip through the cracks.

People condemning others for talking as if there is nothing happening in {insert disaster city here].

Can we please stop that?

I don’t care if you are the most perfect Social Media Guru, Maven, Ninja, or Douchebag that walks the planet. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody has business commitments. Everybody does not REALIZE at the second YOU do (news flash: not everyone spends their whole day on Twitter) that there may be a disaster happening.

I’ve said this before about moms judging other moms: that we need to give each other the benefit of the doubt.

Why can’t bloggers and social media peeps give each other the benefit of the doubt, too?

Sally Smith is not a horrible person if she wasn’t at her computer THIS second to stop a scheduled tweet about a sponsored post. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she was unplugged and at her kid’s dance lesson or soccer practice.

Jane Jones is not a horrible person if she wants to chat on Twitter with someone about her kid’s potty training. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she’s got a big issue on her hands right now.

Mary Roberts is not a horrible person if she doesn’t make a statement about how her prayers go out to those affected in {insert disaster city here} and instead posts a funny update of something that happened at her office. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she deals with tragedy differently than you.

I’ve grown so weary of the finger-pointing, the condescension, the collective lack of ability to try for one second to put ourselves in another person’s shoes. It makes me wonder if it’s all just attention-seeking, really.

Just worry about yourself, people – and the people you feign to be so concerned for in {insert disaster city here}. I’m certain that nobody in that city gives a rat’s ass about who didn’t cancel their scheduled tweets or who’s making jokes on Facebook.

And neither should you.

Because social media needs grace, too.

 

 

 

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What Her Smile Is Worth

by Gigi Ross on May 20, 2013

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Disclosure: this post was sponsored by Invisalign. All opinions are my own.

I didn’t have them.

My husband didn’t have them.

Our parents didn’t have them.

I know nothing about them.

But my daughter needs them.

BRACES.

Little CEO had her first orthodontic consult a few weeks ago.

For me, it sort of felt like that first day of work at a brand new job. You know, where you feel like everybody knows what the heck is going on but YOU? You don’t understand the buzzwords, or the processes, or anything else.

Your eyes kind of…glaze over. You make mental notes to look up this word or that.

And for Little CEO, it was one of the most terrifying experiences of her life. I don’t know who she’s talked to or how it happened, but she’s deathly afraid of braces. She’s afraid of the pain. She’s afraid of people laughing at her. She cried at the thought of not being able to eat popcorn. She’s.freaked.out.

The orthodontist we saw was very nice and welcoming. Upon his recommendation, we’re not jumping into braces right away. He advised us to give it a little time to see how some of Little CEO’s permanent teeth come in.

That gives me time to understand this process a bit better. And hopefully, for Little CEO to work on her fear!

What I also learned was that every orthodontist has his or her own approach to treatment. Some are more aggressive, recommending treatment early; others are more conservative and take a wait and see approach.

We’re not sure what’s on the horizon for Little CEO, or when she’ll officially start with braces, but it’s good to know what my options are.

In six months, when we have our next orthodontic consult to see where Little CEO’s teeth are at by then, I’ll be asking some more questions about whether she’s a good candidate for Invisalign Teen invisible braces when she’s a bit older.

I’ve learned that Invisalign Teen can be a good alternative to traditional braces – in all the ways that matter to my daughter.

She won’t have a list of prohibited foods – which is a big deal for my picky eater. She can brush and floss like normal, and it’ll be easier for her to care for her teeth without metal brackets on. She won’t have to go through that nasty impression process with that smelly, goopy, sticky gunk – Invisalign uses a digital imaging technology to scan the teeth and make much more accurate impressions.

But most importantly, she won’t have to suffer from being self-conscious, because Invisable aligners are virtually invisible. She’ll look like her everyday self. She won’t worry that people are laughing at her. She can smile her regular, beautiful smile and nobody will know that her teeth are being aligned.

And for a little girl who already struggles with self-confidence, this is a really big deal.

Little CEO is going to have to learn self-confidence from within, that’s for sure. And she’ll have to learn to ignore the kids who might tease her. But if I can help that process along the way just a little bit, you bet I will.

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You can learn more about Invisalign at the Invisalign website. You can also follow them on Facebook and Twitter.

If you know someone who’s had a child use Invisalign, I’d love to hear about their experiences!

 

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Moms: It’s OK To Be Angry

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Tweet This past week, Mary from A Teachable Mom wrote a fantastic guest post here about anger. It was a very honest and real post and one that tackled a topic that I think many of us avoid. Many of us are angry moms from time to time – or maybe a lot. We struggle [...]

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11 Beachy Fonts | Font Frenzy

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Improving Mom Blogger Reputation

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Tweet After all of the drama from the Wall Street Journal article regarding the “mommy business trip,” the PR fallout with Disney’s movie publicist, the allegations of plagiarism at Babble, and more, I started thinking that all of this stuff is pretty symptomatic of a larger issue: Mom blogger reputation. And maybe it’s not just [...]

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smell the flower, blow out the candle

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Tweet It is not the call I expect. I expect divorce. I expect a lawsuit. I don’t expect to have to reconcile once again how beauty and blessings are always joined at the hip by ugliness and pain and heartbreak. I may never be able to do that. While she talks, that blasted mental rolodex [...]

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All They Need Is Love

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Tweet My husband’s stepmother is an amazing lady: well-traveled, highly educated, and vibrant. We see each other a couple of times a year, and I always enjoy her company. But it wasn’t until this past year, when she and my father-in-law stayed in the San Diego area over the winter, that I realized that she [...]

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We Are Mothers

May 7, 2013

Tweet We are birth-givers, nesters, nose-wipers, confidants. We are friends, foes, disciplinarians, and hug-squeezers. We feed the hungry, nurse the sick, shout for the winners, cheer up the losers. We show. We teach. We learn. We err. We apologize. We err again. We are advocates, fighters, peacemakers, and lecturers. We support, we confound, we ask [...]

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